Mastodon DMs (Direct Messages) are not stored in a end-to-end encrypted fashion so if you need to have a conversation where you need to ensure a higher level of security, please move the conversation to an actual end-to-end messaging system like Signal.
On Mastodon? Want more features for your fedi experience? Have you considered looking at Misskey? It definitely has more features, many argue it has too many features, including chat, federated cat ears, emoji reactions, and an existential dread widget!
Here's a list of instances: https://join.misskey.page/en-US/instances
A special shoutout to stop.voring.me, which despite the name, is not about vore.
The fediverse has a unique moderation model - each instance moderates its own users, and can defederate from instances which uphold incompatible moderation policy. This allows for a sustainable model for entirely human moderation (unlike monolithic platforms which often stretch beyond feasible human moderation and rely heavily on bots), but this model only remains sustainable if users are spread out across the fediverse.
If you're new, this is just one reason why you should try to join a smaller instance when you find the opportunity, if you haven't already.
Remember that the Fediverse is defined not by any particular software, but by a protocol, a specification which allows software to communicate with other software and be understood. There's many open protocols - e.g. HTTP or IRC, but the one we use on fedi is called ActivityPub. It's an open specification, you can read it yourself!
On fedi, on most popular instance software, you can set your account to be locked, so that people who want to follow you must send a request, which you can then approve or reject. You can also set the visibility level of each post when you send it. Remember that these two features are related, but not totally tied together - you can post a followers-only post when anyone can follow you, and you can post a globally accessible post when your account is locked!
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